Sunday Spotlight is a series where we profile individuals in the Young Mormon Feminists community to hear their stories and get to know them a little better through Q&A or their personal narratives. This week we talked with Sarah Lynn Marie (Rici) (Dupree) Dupree.
Who are you and what are you up to?
I tried to answer this question while working a double split grave and it’s three in the morning. I kept mumbling “who am I?” and just thought I was experiencing a sleep deprived psychosis.
My name on Facebook is Sarah Lynn Marie Dupree. Except I hate the name Sarah and went by Dupree during college. And will probably change it to Rici when I grow up. Nothing against the name Sarah. There are just so many of us and I crave something that will make me stand out.
I work at a residential treatment home where I “hang out” with six clients that committed crimes but plead guilty except for insanity. And by “hang out” I mean I’m constantly redirecting their sexist behaviors and prompting them to change their society washed brains.
Also. I did this thing.
What makes you a Mormon?
I was baptized when I was sixteen. I joined for a lot of wrong reasons but mostly because I was in love with a girl and she happened to be Mormon. I followed her down to BYU and when things didn’t work out I realized that I was only in it for her.
The Church was such a huge part of my life and during the most developmental/influential years of my life. Right now I would consider myself post-Mormon, mainly because I’m not over it yet and wonder if I ever will be.
What makes you a feminist?
A conversation I had with one my BYU supervisors.
Them: “So you consider yourself a feminist, right. Do you think it is wrong that my wife is a stay at home mom?
Me: “Does she want to be a stay at home mother?”
Them: “yea and-“
Me: “Would you support her if she decided that she didn’t want to be a stay at home mom?”
Them: “well yea-“
Me: “Do you consider her your equal?”
Them: “of course-“
Me: “So you consider yourself a feminist, right?”
I chose to believe that no one person is inherently better than another. As equals, they deserve equality.
What makes you a Mormon feminist?
Mormonism was a huge part of my life but I never felt fully stable within the church because of my gender and sexuality (polyamorous+panromantic+a/demi-sexual+genderfluid). I’m a Mormon feminist because I’m anxious for the day when those will not be an issue within the Church.
Always on the outside.
Bonus points if you can tell me which is the one that is is still my best friend, now covered in tattoos and piercings. Double if you guess the one that I was in love with.
Where do you see yourself in ten years?
I realized that I didn’t want children in my freshman year of college and have felt guilty ever since. To appease my conscious, I had planned to run a foster home for transitional youth. I wouldn’t have to commit my entire life to my own child but I would still be contributing to the growth of our society via my support of these children. While I’m still combating the guilt for not wanting to have my own biological children, I’m realizing that this would be my dream with or without the guilt. I want to change people’s lives and at-risk youth seem like the place to start.
So in ten years I will be on my ranch surrounded by adolescents.
Any parting words for us?
“Press play; don’t press pause. Progress, march on” –Macklemore
Sarah Lynn Marie (Rici) (Dupree) Dupree
You can follow my tangential and unrelated (or reverent) musings here: dupree29.tumblr.com