breastfeeding. 3 thoughts to help the men.
“why can’t we at least try to help [men] out in an area that they are naturally weak in? Why can’t we go out of our way in such a simple thing to help them out just a little?”
“Men are very visual and wired to be that way. Maybe some men aren’t affected but I think most are very affected by seeing a woman’s boobs! No matter if its a nursing mom or a porn magazine. There [sic] brain can’t differentiate.”
“Pornography is a huge issue with many men and having your breasts out for all to see just adds fuel to fire in my opinion.”
The above are some comments that took place in a Hypnobirthing support group, a group that gravitates toward all things natural-living. Generally it is a group that is very friendly toward breastfeeding mothers, but even in a group created to support mothers you can still see some pretty harmful words tossed around about how public breastfeeding somehow hurts men.
Breastfeeding should never ever ever EVER be compared to pornography. Not ever. Please do not slut shame someone who is trying to feed a baby. Also, it doesn’t help men to say that they are sex crazed animals who can’t tell the difference between breastfeeding and playboy. So here’s three thoughts that can really help men (and women!) when it comes to breastfeeding.
1. Being a mother to a newborn is crazy hard. You know what makes it harder? If you choose to breastfeed AND still be a part of American society. Newborns are supposed to nurse somewhere between 8-12 times a day. If you choose to leave your home and have a newborn, odds are that newborn is going to need to eat in that time period. As for nursing covers? Great if the mom and baby like them. However in my experience they are a complete pain in the bum and draw a helluva lot more attention to yourself. For many moms who breastfeed, wearing a cover or finding a secluded area to nurse in is not always a ‘simple thing’ to do, and perhaps at times, not even a possible thing to do.
You know what isn’t that hard? Looking in another direction if you don’t want to see a partial breast and a mother is breastfeeding. Simple as that. But I said I’d give you three thoughts. So..
2. Bodies are awesome and multi-functional. Boobs can feed babies AND can be sexual. Mouths can eat food AND can be sexual. If we expected every body part that can be sexual to be covered, we should all be wearing a lot more fabric than we’re wearing now. Context matters in relation to pornography and nudity /= pornography. For that matter breastfeeding doesn’t even equal nudity. Chances are if you stare at a breastfeeding mother, you will probably see the same amount of breast as a woman who wears a v-neck.
3. ‘Men are more visual’ is crazy talk to me. Every time that someone says that, it seems to be for the purpose of separating men from their actions. ‘Men are more visual, thus they can’t help the way they react to a unclothed shoulder, breast, ankle, etc.’ Cough-bullcrap-cough. Furthermore, according to this study that observed brain responses to different images, some of them erotic, women are just as ‘visual’. “Anokhin says the fact that the women’s brains in this study exhibited such a quick response to erotic pictures suggests that, perhaps for evolutionary reasons, our brains are programmed to preferentially respond to erotic material [….] Women have responses as strong as those seen in men” (emphasis added). I can control myself at a public pool where men have exposed chests, I expect the same of any man who sees a woman breastfeeding. I can differentiate between a man in his swimsuit and a man having sex. I can differentiate between a woman breastfeeding and a woman having sex. I imagine that most (maybe all) humans can differentiate the same way I can. So please stop with the ‘men are more visual’ talk, as if a man who sees a woman breastfeeding is suddenly going to be in fornication nation and it’s the breastfeeding mother’s fault.
So there you have it, my three thoughts to help out the men and women who think that public breastfeeding hurts men. You’re welcome world.
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219 Responses to “breastfeeding. 3 thoughts to help the men.”
yeah i loved this. first i loved when you said that naked does not equal pornography! seriously! this should be obvious…otherwise everyone who goes to the pool with kids around is a pervert and everyone who goes to the pool anyways is watching porn..? right? makes no sense. so yes! i loved that point! also i am SO with you that men are no more visual in their sexuality than women. just…i really liked this post!
Thank-you Kelli!
I hate the phrase ‘men are wired to be that way’ too. As if women aren’t wired to be sexual. So I love the quote from the study that says “perhaps for evolutionary reasons, our brains are programmed to preferentially respond to erotic material.” It’s kind of a duh-moment, but still people often infer that only men respond to erotic material.
i cant stand it when people make it a gender thing..when its not about gender
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Well said. Women’s bodies are over-sexualized and over-regulated.
absolutely
How are women’s bodies over-regulated?? How are they regulated in ways that a mans body isn’t?
Absolutely. Some states require a woman undergo a transvaginal ultrasound before getting an abortion. Some states restrict women’s access to birth control.
Restricting access to birth control is not regulation of a woman’s body, but regulation of medicine availability…if they forced women to take birth control, THAT would be regulation of women’s bodies.
Restricting access to birth-control is not regulation of your body – in addition, many products are restricted…and no product is free to anyone who wants it – it isn’t a right.
That hat is “the tits”…sorry I had to.
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Love the hat!
I think it’s just the patriarchy rearing its hypocritical head every time someone objects to public breast-feeding (like you said, sometimes it can’t be helped, it just as to be done). If I see a woman breastfeeding, I just look away. Simple as that. I don’t see why anyone else can’t do the same.
I think it’s patriarchal thinking too, rami.
Thanks for reading.
Thanks for giving me something to read.
A win-win scenario would be to scout out a couple dozen places around town that one could safely, comfortably, quietly, and discreetly breastfeed one’s offspring BEFORE getting pregnant. As well as downloading it to your smartphone, you could laminate a little card with all the locations, the times those locations are open to you, and at least one contact name/number of a person who works there. Easy peasy.
After all, the mother doesn’t need to be worried about where she’s gonna set up all the time, the kid doesn’t need a bombardment of distractions while enjoying lunch, and the rest of us don’t need to constantly wonder if we’re going to walk around a corner and suddenly have an engorged mammary and a ragged, inflamed nipple staring us in the face while she changes sides.
That’s really not what we go to Starbucks for. Just sayin’.
Huh? I had to read your comment twice, and it still doesn’t make sense. If you’re being sarcastic, it is lost on me.
You’re correct in that a mother doesn’t need to be worried about where she’ll feed her child (not at all an affair requiring set up). However, the reason is simply because she has the legal right to breastfeed anywhere that she has a right to be.
If one read through didn’t cinch it for you, I’m afraid follow up comments wouldn’t do you much good, either.
And gross.
And, by your way of thinking, I have a legal right to gawk anywhere I have a right to be.
Wow. What complete and utter misogyny you display.
Women, mammals, have been nursing their children throughout the history of mammalia. Yes, we humans are so brilliant that we have made substitutes for actual 100% appropriate nutrition for an infant, but they are just that — substitutes. NOT as good as the real thing, regardless of marketing and advertising.
As recently as 30 years ago, when I breastfed my three children, this was not even an issue. Where have I been that this is somehow now an indecency problem?? When did it become necessary for mothers to stay at home continuously for the duration of their breastfeeding time in order to spare others a possible sense of revulsion? When did it become OK to hypersexualize young girls with teen slut clothing while at the same time making it a taboo to do what nature intended?
You are here because somewhere in your ancestry a mother breastfed her child, as all her mothers did before her. You should be thankful mothers still choose the best food for their babies, not complain about “a ragged inflamed nipple”.
You are obviously looking too close if you are worried about that nipple staring you in the face, which I think says a lot more about you than it does about a nursing mother.
What a perfect example you are for my point, thank you. Couldn’t ask for a more detailed example of exactly the type of person I’m talking about. Cheers!
As a man I can honestly say that those things do not help me at all. Also, I don’t have any problem with you breast-feeding in public.
Ha, ha–I’ll bet!
I’m new to breastfeeding, and I appreciate all the support I can get. Thank you for this post!
Do you have any tips on what to do when a man stares at you while breastfeeding, even though you are using a nursing cover? Awkward!
Personally, I’d call out the creeper with a ‘it’s not polite to stare’ or ‘can I help you?’ But I understand that it’s hard to feel empowered and speak up for yourself when something like that happens. It’s a vulnerable place to be. I hope within the next generation or so our society can stop being weirdos about breasts/breastfeeding so that seeing a woman breastfeed won’t be so shocking. So many other cultures are okay with public breastfeeding. I hope one day we can join them
May the boob power be with you while you breastfeed!
Women should have at least a bit of modesty and at least try a LITTLE bit to cover-up, unlike the photo on the post (it looks like she’s in a BAR!!) And PLEASE not in a restaurant, where I’m eating and can’t look away if seated in my line of sight.
The hat is very cute though.
Congrats on getting pressed.
Why should women be modest while breastfeeding? Why are you opposed to seeing a woman breastfeed? Why can’t you look away if you don’t want to look?
Thanks for your congrats.
Because if I’m facing her at a restaurant I have no choice. Been there. I’m more comfortable naked also, but not in public.
Hmm… I’m pretty sure you always have a choice.
1. It’s not just men who are uncomfortable with women breastfeeding in public.
2. While I agree those people could use some enlightenment (I’m glad I’m not their baby), I breastfed two children (they never took formula) and never exposed myself in public. I used a thin baby blanket to cover up with. However, I would never tell a women who doesn’t cover up that she can’t feed her baby.
I agree that it’s not just men who are uncomfortable with the breasts. I meant to address those who argue against public breastfeeding under the name of ‘helping out the men’. I understand though how it looks like I’m only addressing men, but I do mean to address both the men and women who are uncomfortable.
Feeding a hungry child is just that. It is natural. Men need to grow up.
agreed
I breastfed all three of my kids, often in public if the child was hungry while we were in public. I would cover if I had one handy – though not for anyone else’s sake. It just made it easier for the child in question to get down to business without all the distractions. If anyone was bothered, I was too busy staring at the ridiculously cute infant in my arms to give them any notice.
Here’s the deal: anyone (man or woman) who is offended by a woman feeding her child in the way that God intended is a selfish bastard, and their opinions simply do not matter. The end. Life is too short, and children are too precious, to spend a single second catering to the overly-delicate sensibilities of jerks squicked out by well-fed babies. Breasts are pretty, it’s true, but they are also utilitarian. Let them serve their purpose, and ignore anyone who complains.
I was going to say something very similar to your comments..You nailed IT!….Funny some would take issue with women feeding their child NATURALLY(instead of stuff made to sub for breast milk; as IF) ; yet have no problem with seeing women dress half naked! I see more tits & ass & vulva exposed(with skin tight clothing) these days; than any woman breastfeeding in public shows. Just this weekend a woman breast fed her baby on the plane , and? Not once did I see even a glimpse of her nips(or anything) And IF I had so what??? Men & women who oppose breast feeding need to grow the heck UP…God created tits(and women for that matter…) for far MORE than just sex..We ARE the supreme multi-taskers..We bring life into the world/nourish children with our own milk/co-raise them/keep house//work outside the house/tend to ALL of our man’s needs…Including BOMB sex after allll of the rest of those activities in one day. Breast feeding is the BEST way to feed our babies..They have far less or NO allergies & are healthier overall…I had 3 sons, breast fed them all, and I see kids these days sick every other week it seems! In comparison my sons were rarely sick & when they caught colds rid of them quickly..That matters, alot. Mom fed my bro & I until we had TEETH. And lastly its a heck of a lot cheaper than fake formula. Dang shame how unhealthy ways of living these days is promoted over healthy. Especially in our country. So non -progressive, indeed..Anyways enough of my rant..Excellent commentary! 2 thumbs UP on your write
keep breastfeeding with pride! I love that you won’t allow anyone to shame you.
I hope all men read this! Bravo to you!
From what I’ve seen, the people most opposed to public breastfeeding are not men. It’s the little, old ladies.
I think you are right there. I had an interesting conversation with my mother in law after watching something about breast feeding on the news – it made me feel that when I have children that I wouldn’t feel comfortable breast feeding in her house! Her opinion seemed to be that women who breast feed in public are doing so to get men to look at their boobs!
Great post, Rachel.
Thank-you Dani!
I love the hat! I breasted my three kids! In total 7,5+7,5+13 months= 28 months of my life! More than 2 years! You need to be living… I breasted in emergency walking down rodeo drive in L.A., my daughter 2 months was too hungry to wraith, in the Swiss mountain, in Paris in the Park…actually everywhere! You should not be kept at home to avoid disturbing…nonsense
“Breastfed”
Finding a woman breastfeeding in public can be, at times, an unexpected event, but from that point forward a little self-discipline on the man’s part is the ethical thing to do. It’s not like there is anything there for him, is there.
Actually, it’s rather natural and also refreshing to see a mother care enough about her child’s future to breastfeed her baby.
Congrats on being Fresh Pressed!
I am a member of the Congregational/United Church of Christ. We have a new mom who does not cover when nursing her baby, and we all congratulate her for doing so. It’s time for men – and women – to get over it.
That the mom is breastfeeding also means she isn’t in a hurry to get into “skinny jeans”; rather, she is thinking of her child first. These days, that’s something to be happy about! Thanks, Amy Barlow Liberatore, Madison, WI
From what I’ve been told, breastfeeding is actually helping mothers to get into “skinny jeans” – a win-win situation!
Thank you Sharp Little Pencil! And thank-you for empowering other moms to breastfeed.
I find it funny that men are so uptight about anything female related.
seriously?
im sure if they were the little ones starving and their mother refused to feed them based on being in public..they wouldnt be so happy. happy baby happy mommy happy daddy.
men need to get over it.
also, we put your penis’s in our mouths…cmon.
I can’t imagine any normal male being sexually aroused at the sight of a woman breast feeding. It sounds like entertaining chat but in the real world, no, guys are not turned on by the sight of a partially covered boob stuck in a kids mouth. Being a father, and having one child that was breast fed for a short period of time, I think I can speak for other guys on this topic. Studies typically mean nothing and tend to have an agenda to follow. Breast feeding is natural. I can however understand why some folks would be uncomfortable at the sight of public breast feeding. Everyone is different and we all have our opinions.
You want to talk about studies? Try the one that proves that homophobe men are sexually aroused by viewing gay porn.
Congrats on winning the FP lottery!
ជីវិតម៉ែគឺជាអ្នកមានគុណធំតើកូនដឹងទេថាកូននៅម៉ែមើលកូនរហូតដល់ធំពេញវ័យក្រមុំហើយចែកទ្រព្យសម្បត្តិឱ្យកូនតើកូនទេ ។
Personally, I’m not bothered by it. I can choose to look away. Nature has no power over me.
Great article. The comments you speak of in the article “men are more visual so they can’t help it” are insulting to men AND women so its good to see you blow them out of the water.
On another note, my wife and I found it really hard to find Nursing Rooms on our recent holiday to Hawaii. They are prevalent here in Aus. Is this just a Hawaiian thing? We ended up either using a nursing cover (not practical in that heat) or using changing rooms at Macy’s and the like, usually a disabled changing room as it could fit the pram. And we hated doing that as we did not want to be the people who use disabled car spaces or rooms when we don’t need to.
Anyway, I got a bit off track but nice article.
I don’t think it’s a Hawaii thing, I think it’s a USA thing.
That’s pretty cool that nursing rooms are prevalent in Australia. How do Australians generally feel about moms nursing if they choose to forgo a nursing room?
Hhmm, I am loathe to speak on behalf of all of Australia but I think there are divisions here just like anywhere. You often see stories in the media about cafes that “discourage” mothers from breastfeeding there and we recently had a Morning Show host say something stupid (I know, how rare) about “those breastfeeding mothers” (look him up, Kochie is his name). But then, you also have great stories about cafes who have build deliberately wide aisles to let parents and prams enjoy brunch.
As for the nursing rooms specifically, here in Sydney, you can find a Nursing room at pretty much every mall and major shopping centre. Even in smaller towns. They usually have separate private cubicles inside to nurse, nappy change and sit with the bub. We could not find anything similar in Hawaii. Also, the disabled change room at Macy’s in Kailua was the only disabled anything we found in Hawaii. Great place, but whats with that?
As for nursing in public, here in Aus you see it often enough that its not a surprise to see it I guess, but this is coming from someone for whom it is not an issue. Some uptight fool fearing the return of the times of Sodom and Gomorrah may see those evil mothers and their twin lactating cannons of fury everywhere. I feel sorry for them and their little minds.
Excellent post. As a former LLL leader and a militant advocate for breastfeeding, I say “ABSOLUTELY” to all your points. I have to say that the ‘just look away’ thing might work for some, but I find it empowering to walk right up to a breastfeeding woman and tell her how AWESOME I find it that she is nursing her baby in public. Most mom’s just light up when they see they are not being judged.
I only advise people to just look away if they don’t want to see breastfeeding. I love that you walk right up to breastfeeding moms and say empowering stuff. I think I’m going to do that too from here on out.
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Great post on breastfeeding.
I covered some of the time, as others have stated, because my daughter was so distracted by all the super cool stuff that she was seeing around her. No one ever told me to cover, no one gave me dirty looks, some stopped and smiled. We did have one friend though that kept asking my husband if he got aroused every time I fed our daughter. I think we were both so dumbfounded we didn’t know how to answer his question. We would just burst out laughing.
I breastfed my daughter for 3 years. She had teeth at 4 months. I am a full time working mom. I pumped for 6 months. It was hard work. But I don’t regret any of it. That time with my daughter was one that no one else could provide for her. Her immune system is excellent. And she is a secure and happy kid.
I love that you had such a positive response from others while breastfeeding.
Thanks for reading!
I remember a couple years ago as a teenager at a mall sitting on a bench, the bench across from was a women who started to breast feed her child. Now she coverd herself and the baby yet I could still make out most of her breast. The reason I’m telling this is because when I saw this I just tried my best to look away and not stare feeling that it was the polite thing to do and this was at a time I had yet to see a naked women in person so I was just trying to be polite and not stare. As a young man now who has and is sexual active, I see nothing sexual about or arousing, if I was in that same situation I would do the same thing and not stare. I figured most men would do the same as me
‘Men are more visual’ is just discriminatory. Its like saying “women are lazy”. As a man I am insulted by being judged as “visual” or anything else just based on my gender.
From this side of the pond, it seems as if it might be another case of American Nipplegate. The issue exists here as well though, albeit somewhat less vividly.
I must add that I equally dislike the other side of the coin, the militant pro-breast-feeders, who brand every woman who does not breast-feed until forever as “bad mommy”.
love the phrase ‘American Nipplegate’.
During my pregnancy I had been thinking about when and where I would feel “comfortable” breastfeeding. I had also decided that I would avoid feeding in front of my male in-laws. Just felt weird. But once the baby came, I was whipping Titty and Totty out whenever baby M wanted me too. I also found that when in public I had two tricks. 1) Always have a shawl in my bag (easy, pretty and modest). I found that most people didn’t even realize I was feeding. 2) When I would catch the odd wandering male eye, I would simple own it. A wave or confronting ‘hello!’ would snap them out of it straight away and leave them the ones turning red. Not me! I breastfed my baby for 12 months.
Good luck to any mothers breastfeeding. It is hard and challenging, but worth every moment of it.
And yes, I am also one of those Hypno, water birthing moms.
Thanks for your empowering words! And I love ‘whipping Titty and Totty out’.
Term handed down from generation to generation 🙂
they must of been pissed becouse it wasn t them tell me what you think i think there is nothen rong with this how about the rest of ya
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If I may venture a few comments on behalf of men: Breastfeeding in public does embarrass some men. Deal with it! And it has zippo to do with sex.
These are the same men who look away when a woman gets out of a car and reveals a little to much. These are the same men who look away when a woman bends over and her cleavage shows more than it should.
Its called “respect” for women and their dignity.
And yes, these men do still exist.
I get the impression that for some women, breast feeding in public is a statement – look at me, boys! Boobs! Flesh! Hey Asshole – what you looking at? You pervert. All I’m doing is feeding my baby. Why you got to take something so natural and pervert it?
Breast feeding in public is like saying I dont need dignity.
That said, I am going to go urinate in the street.
I don’t understand what you’re trying to say here, but I hate HATE when people try to compare public breastfeeding with urinating in the street.
Read this if you want to understand why they are not related http://theleakyboob.com/2012/01/exploring-the-body-fluids-debate-about-breastfeeding-in-public/
I don’t find breast feeding in public a problem or an issue, but I do wonder why so many women choose to do it in noisy, high traffic areas, surely it is more calming for mother and child to go somewhere a little more quiet and relax.
well said and well done. congratulations on being freshly pressed.
Thank-you moodsnmoments!
AMEN! It’s so sad that our society tries to shame and discourage a woman from breastfeeding. I am a second time exclusively breastfeeding momma, and this post is fantastic! All I have to say is, if a formula fed baby can eat in public, then breastfed babies can too.
I think the problem lies with if men have been exposed to breastfeeding or not. If they were raised with it or their own spouse does it. I think that helps them be more comfortable.
But, I don’t really care what makes them “comfortable”. If my baby is hungry, I’m going to feed them. Any place & at anytime.
I would be very careful when using the global term “men”, as not ALL men are… whatever they are supposed to be. Some are and some are not… So for fairness to the other sex the use of ‘some men’ would be more appropriate.
“So there you have it, my three thoughts to help out the men and women who think that public breastfeeding hurts men.”
Emphasis on ‘men and women who think that public breastfeeding hurts men’.
And yet your title exclusively directs your message at men. As many of the comments demonstrate, this guy isn’t alone in thinking that you singled out men as being uncomfortable with breastfeeding. A fair number of the people “agreeing” with you are using the language in your title, not your conclusion. One that I read felt the need to “correct” you by saying that, in her experience, the group with the biggest issue is women from an older generation. I’m using the quote marks because to single out men isn’t to agree with you, and to point out the trouble some women have with this issue isn’t a correction.
Also, is that even a thing?! Assault on breastfeeding moms?
I see what you mean about a lot of commenters misinterpreting what I wrote. And it doesn’t sit well with me either. I didn’t realize that so many read the title and stop there. I would hope that if someone felt passionate enough to respond to what I wrote, they’d look further than the title.
apologies on the “Is that even a thing?” comment. It was meant to be posted on a different comment. I know better than to reply on my phone, and yet I still did it.
Good reply…..:)
Nice hat!
The pic at the end is fantastic. I love this post and applaud you for it. We’re too freakin’ prude about boobs in this country anyway. Just get over it people.
Amen……..”more boobs”!!! “more boobs”!!!
Thank-you tdawneightone!
I’ll echo a comment just above; “Men” is an awfully broad category, and some of us aren’t part of the problem. I’ll freely admit that an awful lot of my fellow genderlings are sadly programmed by popular culture to the “boob=porn” response, but I think it’s possible for each of us with the tiniest capacity for introspection to rewrite that programming into something with a context-recognition feature. I’ll also freely admit that your three points are bang on, and as the father of a little fellow who would eat for 8 to 12 HOURS each day (or so it seemed) I’m all in favour of reducing the hassles load of new mothers.
Also, on a point above regarding modesty– I can’t think of any time I’ve come across a breast-feeding mom who has made a loud, provocative announcement about the impending emergence of the item, nor gone out of the way to call attention to the exercise (apart from that hat). Occasional glimpses of something you may find distasteful are a part of life; it’s not joyful, but it’s liveable.
I’m glad that you think my three points are ‘bang on’. I also love that you used the phrase ‘bang on’.
Perhaps I could have been more clear, but I did address the men and women that I am talking about:
“So there you have it, my three thoughts to help out the men and women who think that public breastfeeding hurts men.”
grt one, loved it
I was in a restaurant on London’s Southbank, it was one of those places where they park other diners on your table if there’s room to squeeze everyone in, so a family with a newborn were sat with us. I hadn’t noticed any breastfeeding was going on until I saw the funny looks on my boyfriends face. I found it hilarious seeing him squirm, more so when it turned out he was only making faces because he wanted to spit his food out as it was horrible and was too embarrassed as strangers were sat right there.
What about the baby? Let us all forget for a second about who is visual, sexual and about the comforts and political correctness of adults. If a baby is hungry and should be fed, should that not be good enough reason for us to ignore the arguments and simply just make sure that the innocent child is not deprived of their nutrition? What has western society come to?
Great Post though !!!!
you should identify the kind of men you talking about. i believe you are talking about american men, so do not say most men because american men don’t make up most men in world. they are only part of the men society in the world.
I did address the men and women that I am talking about:
“So there you have it, my three thoughts to help out the men and women who think that public breastfeeding hurts men.”
here it the action of a noble mother. in my country
A bold stand, indeed! All human beings have evolved from the same breastfeeding phase–there ought to be nothing to frown about this in modern society. We had seen in my state-Haryana, India, say 10 yrs back– the people giving respect and private space to every lady in a crowd more so in the following cases;
1) A man standing of his seat to offer it to a lady standing in a bus.
2) People overlooking{not to offer peek-a-boo(b)} a lady feeding her baby.
3) people drooping their necks to have seen something exposed inadvertently by a lady.
Now the situation seems just reverse even with so much modern outlook.
The cap with a pink annular ring with a nipple in the center really serves a psycho-attention-deflector to those psychos who are invariably ready to offer “peek-a-boo(b)”!