(cross posted from her blog: http://realisticallytinesha.wordpress.com/)
After watching the VMAs tonight, I made sure to write a mental note to myself to NEVER WATCH THEM AGAIN. (How many times does Kevin Hart have to comment on Lady Gaga’s backside? I mean, ew. And why are there so many commercials? And who are half of these celebrities?)
People won some awards, people presented some awards. There were good performances, there were terrible performances, and there were performances I wish I wouldn’t have seen—most notably Miley Cyrus’s and Robin Thicke’s train wreck of a performance.
The entire time, I was completely horrified and uncomfortable. The dancing, the singing, the grinding is just really awful. All of it. (I’m going to be completely honest– go ahead and watch if you dare. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. You will be horrified. Also, not for young children.)*
Along with the performance, I couldn’t help but be equally horrified by the responses to this performance. Twitter and ever form of social media blew up . (Picture MTV employees greedily smiling, excited that something controversial has actually happened for ratings.) Yes, I am horrified by this performance. Miley Cyrus is problematic for more reasons than one, and I’m not denying that. (Cultural appropriation, anyone?) However, I was thoroughly disgusted by the way people reacted to the performance on Twitter. (Key words: double standards!)
All I kept scrolling through were tweets like this:
How sweet of you, Brian.
What’s Whore Island? Is this an actual place?
BUT WAIT. Last time I checked, aka when I watched this an hour ago, Miley isn’t dancing by herself up there. Oh no, the 36 year old Robin Thicke was dancing right up with her, singing his song “Blurred Lines” and dancing with a bunch of half naked girls. A few tweets casually joked about getting kicked out of the house.
HERE’S THE CATCH. The most retweeted/popular tweets about Robin Thicke were NOT about him being a whore. Oh no, they were about HOW HOT HE WAS. Oh yes. Robin Thicke performs with Miley, and he’s quite the hottie, apparently.
Let’s not forget he sings Blurred Lines. Classy? Hm…
Oh, but wait! Miley Cyrus is a whore because she was twerking on Robin. Wait—what?! (Edited for language).
And wait—it’s Miley’s fault that Robin was dancing with her? WHAT. Since when does Miley need to keep his faithfulness in check?
Yes, Miley is problematic. With that said, this reaction to Miley/Robin performance is just telling of this greater issue. In our society, when a woman does something sexual ( like twerking against Robin at a VMA performance), she’s a whore. Miley not recognizing that Robin Thicke is indeed a married man and needs to back off makes her a whore. However, there is such a blatant double standard present. Robin Thicke is jokingly criticized for dancing with a 20 year old on stage and applauded for his good looks. He is married, and he is only jokingly criticized for his inability to stay away from the scantily clad ladies on stage (and don’t even get me started on the Blurred Lines song/music video—they’re definitely rapey/creepy/the worst.) The VMAs performance was problematic, but it wasn’t just Miley’s (the woman’s) fault.
Tl;dr (aka the short version for those who didn’t read the whole thing):
PS. Don’t watch the VMAs if you missed it. Be glad you missed it and a read a book or something.
*If you’re still really interested in the performance, it’s here: http://www.gossipcop.com/miley-cyrus-blurred-lines-mtv-vmas-robin-thicke-we-cant-stop-video-music-awards/